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Peace through strength

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When I read To Train Up a Child, published by
No Greater Joy, I was struck by the claim that the child training methods taught by the Pearls could result in less anger, less yelling, and fewer spankings. That’s not the reputation the Pearls have in the media. When someone tells you they use a switch on their children, you assume they do not live in a gentle home.

I contend, for several reasons, that corporal punishment is not necessarily violent. For one thing, the Amish practice it - a people whose ancestors died because they refused to practice violence. For another, dealing with your child before you become angry can prevent you from losing your head and becoming abusive. It’s unfortunate, but it’s true. I told a story last month about a non-spanking mother who caused more damage with her words than if she had been willing to spank her daughter. And, dealing with your child before your child becomes angry also makes for a less violent home.

The Pearls condemn child abuse, they oppose disciplining in anger, and they positively affirm that when children are well-trained, they are happier and more peaceful.


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